It's not him, it's you.

There's been something that's been bothering me for awhile, something people are forever getting confused about, and I think it's about time I had a little rant about it...

For us women, I'm sure we've all had situations where we meet a guy, it seems to be going okay, and then he informs you that he 'just isn't up for a relationship right now'.
Fair enough, right? I mean, he likes you and all, he just doesn't want something serious... Right?

Wrong.
Harsh fact is, if he's telling you that he doesn't want a relationship now, you can probably take that as he doesn't want a relationship with YOU right now.

If you meet someone, and they're so incredible, and you click with them so well and are so attracted to them, and know they're into you; are you going to tell them that you don't want to be in a relationship right now and watch them float away to the next person, one who'll really appreciate them? Or, are you going to go for it?

Chances are, you're going to go for it. If you don't, we're probably talking a fear of commitment, and that's a whole different ball game.

You meet a guy, he gives you the 'no relationship' spiel, and then a couple weeks later he has a girlfriend? Yeah... he didn't suddenly realize he wanted a relationship. he just suddenly met the person he wanted one with.

Having said all that, I'm sure we've all been on the other side of the equation too. Someone wants to get serious with you, and you're just not down with it. You tell them you don't want to date anyone right now, and maybe you think that's how you actually feel, but deep down, it's most likely because they didn't make you feel That Thing.

So to anyone who's still waiting by the phone in case that guy changes his mind, or in case you can convince him that you're okay with having a casual fling... just admit it, it's probably not going to happen.

Besides, he probably wasn't that great anyway.